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Wednesday, 2 October 2013

Please Leave Your Negativity At The Door

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Because if you don't, I might invite you to go trough it again, and not return.
I have HAD IT with negative people.  You'll have to excuse the caps, but they are necessary so that you understand how MAD I am right now, and how badly I have HAD IT with the dang peanut gallery!

Ok, I'll stop now, but imagine that I'm biting in to every single word, and I am visibly angry.

Every single project I have, there are a million others out there trying to do the same thing, and it seems like no one, especially complete strangers, can resist telling me that.

"You want to write a variety blog? It's going to be impossible to build and audience, you'll never succeed."

You know what?  It's not easy.  I've been at this for a while, and it's still not what I'd like it to be.  Though if I'm honest, I haven't put in all the necessary efforts, and when I did work hard on it, I got more results.  So arguably, if I'd put in the work, this blog could have been a huge success.  Nothing is impossible, and screw you (negative person) for implying that I can't  be successful in something if I put my mind to it.  I'm sorry you'd never have the courage to follow your dreams, but please abstain from polluting my mind with negative thoughts I don't need to hear.

"You want to open a restaurant? You do know that most of them go out of business in the first five years don't you?  You're making a big mistake.  Remember you have a family to feed!"

Awesome.  Thank you so much for reminding me that I had a family.  For a minute there, I had completely forgotten that I gave birth to two beautiful boys around which my entire universe revolves.  Good thing you were there to point that out for me, I may have never remembered.  As for the restaurant business, while that may be true, it's true of restaurants that don't know what they're doing.  My husband and I have ample experience and are exceptionally astute, so don't you worry about us making a go of it, because I'm not.  Again, I'm sorry that you will never have enough confidence in your own self to make this kind of a leap, but please keep your fears to yourself, as I don't want them to become my own.

"Oh, you're making jewelry?  Are you selling a lot of it?" (in a snarky type of "what a joke" type of tone)

No actually, I haven't sold a lot of it yet, though I have sold some, and have gotten tons of positive feedback.  Also, I just started, so you know, building a clientele takes time.  You know what though?  I love it.  My jewelry is unique, and each piece is one of a kind.  Will I become a millionaire from selling jewelry? Probably not, but hey who knows?  If you never try something, you can never succeed at it.

"Oh you started your own face painting business?  Can you live from that full time?"

If you must know, I know a clown that makes a pretty decent living doing kids parties and corporate events full time, and he makes a very decent living.  I don't personally plan on doing this full time, but if the business takes off, I sure wouldn't mind.  I love face painting, it doesn't feel like work.  I make good money, spend about five minutes with each child, make them super happy and send them on their merry way.  It rocks.

I'm sure I could come up with a million more examples, but I think you get the picture.

Point is: I don't want to hear it!!!  Stop filling my head with all of your fears and insecurities!

I think I can, therefore I will.  Got it?  I will.

OK, that's enough ranting for one day.  What about you?  Do you have to deal with Nay-Sayers often? How do you respond to unwelcomed negative opinions?

Much love and POSITIVE thoughts!


  1. Well, for what it's worth, good luck... I look forward to reading the progress reports.

  2. I hate Negative Nellies and Jealous Jennys. First, don't let ignorant comments like that bring you down. It's them, not you. Clearly, it's their beef or whatever. Let them stew in their own haterade. As long as you have that desire and that dream, go after it. Screw what everyone else says! Chin up buttercup!

  3. Haha Yvonne that's precious! Haterade!!! I loooove it! Tee hee

    Thanks for the support, much much appreciated!

  4. Hey Beautiful,

    You know I've been there. All I can say is we have to, unfortunately, deal with it. It won't stop. People are threatened by those that dream and live big. I would recommend a book by Brene Brown called "Daring Greatly". Actually, anything by Brene is awesome. Don't ever give up on your dreams because of small minded people who are lost in their own illusion of a caged reality.

  5. Thank you Diana, you are so right. I get angry sometimes because I start to feel affected by their negativity. Building a wall of positive thoughts around yourself is very difficult when people are constantly trying to break it down. I am strong, but I'm not made of titanium, and it gets to be a real drag sometimes!